The Therapist Diaries

Hello and welcome back to The Therapist Diaries,  During a consultation this week, a client mentioned that they and their partner had started doing regular relationship “check-ins” while navigating a difficult patch in their relationship. They described sitting down every couple of weeks to ask each other how they were feeling, what was working well, and what needed more attention. I loved the way they framed it, not as a sign that the relationship was failing, but as a form of maintenance. It is very similar to something I encourage in couples counselling, I call it, The Relationship MOT.  In the UK, we understand the importance of an MOT for a car. Even if the vehicle seems to be running fine, regular inspections help identify small issues before they become major problems. Relationships are much the same. Most couples wait until something feels seriously wrong before having meaningful conversations about connection, communication, intimacy, stress, resentment, or unmet need...