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Quiet Magic: Mindfulness in the stories we grew up with

Hello and welcome back to The Therapist Dairies,

In the last post I introduced the idea that in addition to warmth and nostalgia, Fairytales are filled with lessons on mental health and wellbeing, in particular, the idea of mindfulness. 

Mindfulness is the ability to be present and fully engaged with the current moment, free from distraction or self-judgment. It involves actively observing and acknowledging your thoughts and feelings, neutrally, and maintaining awareness of surroundings and sensations. By focusing in on the present moment, we can help our bodies reduce stress, anxiety, and depression while also improving our overall well-being. It gives us the freedom to step out of "auto pilot mode" and become more positive in our responses to tough moments which in time, builds our overall mental resilience. 

In this post, we’re going to step into the world of Cinderella, not just as a fairytale, but as a reflection of mindfulness in action. Beyond the ballgowns and glass slippers lies a story of quiet resilience, emotional presence, and the power of holding onto self-worth in the face of hardship. What if Cinderella wasn’t just waiting to be rescued, but was practicing something deeper, staying grounded, hopeful, and true to herself despite the chaos around her? Let’s explore how her journey mirrors the mindful path, and what we can learn from the way she chooses grace over reactivity.

Cinderella is one of those timeless stories that many of us grew up with: a kind-hearted young woman, mistreated by her stepmother and stepsisters, who ultimately finds her way to a better life. On the surface, it’s a story of magic and luck, but when we look through a therapeutic lens, it also carries profound lessons about resilience, self-compassion, and the power of small, intentional actions.

Cinderella’s life is full of hardship. She is forced to live in difficult circumstances, yet she maintains a sense of inner grace and kindness. She does not allow her environment to define her self-worth, and she quietly tends to her responsibilities, finding moments of beauty and care even in mundane tasks. It’s easy to overlook these small actions, but they demonstrate a kind of mindfulness, the ability to remain present, to nurture oneself, and to act with integrity despite adversity.

So often, we’re wired to wait for the big wins like the promotions, the milestones, or the breakthroughs, before we allow ourselves to feel proud or fulfilled. But healing, growth, and joy often live in the small, easily missed moments: getting out of bed on a hard day, setting a boundary, taking a deep breath before reacting. As a therapist, I encourage my clients to slow down and notice these quiet victories, because they are the building blocks of lasting change. Praising yourself for the small things isn’t about lowering the bar, it’s about recognizing your effort, your resilience, and your presence in the here and now. When we celebrate these moments, we reinforce self-worth and shift our focus from perfection to progress. Life becomes less about the finish line, and more about the steps we're taking along the way.

Cinderella’s story reminds us that mindfulness is not about escaping challenges or waiting for a magical solution. It’s about finding the inner resources to navigate life with presence and self-respect. If Cinderella hadn't remained mindful, she probably wouldn't have been open to accepting the magical help of her Fairy God Mother. Mindfulness helps us give ourselves our best chance at noticing help and accepting it when it appears. Her story encourages us to notice the small moments where we can choose patience, kindness, or courage, even when life feels overwhelming.

Here's a mindfulness exercise for you to try. Take a few minutes to sit quietly and reflect on your day. Identify one small action you performed, whether it was completing a task, helping someone, or even showing yourself patience, that required intentional effort. 

Breathe deeply and acknowledge the strength it took to act with care. 

Then, imagine that each small action such as that, is like a sparkling steppingstone on a bridge: unique, valuable, and meaningful in its own way. Recognize that just as Cinderella’s steady kindness paved the way for her transformation, your mindful actions build resilience and self-worth in your own life.

Fairytales like Cinderella remind us that growth and change often happen quietly, step by step. When we read them mindfully, we uncover lessons about patience, inner strength, and the power of intentional living, lessons that are as relevant for adults today as they were for children long ago.

Before you dive into the hustle of the week ahead, take a moment to pause and breathe. This week, I'm inviting you into a simple but powerful mindfulness challenge that I like to call, "One Mindful Moment a Day." That’s it, just one moment each day where you pause, ground yourself, and fully experience the present. Whether it’s sipping your morning coffee without distractions, taking a few deep breaths before responding to a stressful email, or simply noticing the feel of the sun on your skin, let that moment be just about being here, now. You've got this. Let this be the week you show up for you.

Until next time- be kind to your mind.

—The Therapist Diaries

 

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